Sunday, November 8, 2009

Photos (Finally!)

I have become one of those bloggers that used to frustrate me. You know, the ones who blogged regularly until they came home with their child/ren and NEVER blogged again! Come on! Just like Paul Harvey, we want to read the rest of the story!

I now have a better understanding of those bloggers. There is NO time!

Wow. Where do I begin. I have started this post a thousand times in my head. I promised myself I wouldn't go to bed tonight until I wrote something because once Monday starts, the whole week is a flurry of activity, chaos, rowdy kids with loud voices and homework!

A second part of my lack of posting has been the extremely difficult days we have walked through as a family of seven. I have struggled with wanting to be transparent for other waiting AP's and also for those that may be considering becoming adoptive parents. At the same time, our children have walked some hard, long, difficult days and I don't want to dishonor them by spilling the details of their actions and behavior as they are learning life in America as part of our family. It's been rough. It's been more than rough. But, we are in such a better place than we were two months ago. For the most part, the twins have almost given into the fact that I'm their mom and they really aren't in charge around here. At least they hesitate before arguing with me about every thing that comes out of my mouth! I may be stretching the truth a bit because they really have come a long way since our first days home in July. They have incredibly great manners and remember their please and thank you's more often than our bio kids. They love to joke and tease, especially Hailab Turner. They like routine and change is really difficult for them. They like knowing what is happening next. They even ask me sometimes, "What are we doing tomorrow? When we go to bed and get up, what are we doing the next day? When we go to bed and get up, what are we doing the day after that?

We've been home four months. The last three weeks have been completely different around the house in such a good and positive way. We are so thankful.

I've added pictures from this fall. Don't we look like one big happy family?!? In an effort to stay as transparent as possible in blogland, many of these pictures are great but I don't have photos of the difficult and painful days. And if I did, I wouldn't show them anyway. (I do have one great picture of Turner pouting. I just might use when he turns 16 or 21 or 30 for a good roast!)

We are glad to answer any questions anyone may have about our experiences. Our heart is to help others be more aware of the gift of adoption, and the ability we all have to help orphans in some way or another.

I will do my best to post before another two months fly by!

Good old fashioned roller skating!

Ellyn Yeabsira and Hailab Turner standing on Ethiopia on the large scale globe at the zoo.

My sweet sister, niece and Madison.

I love this picture!

It's good to grow old together. We met over 20 years ago.

Our small town festival. Our family always has a float in the parade.

Nanna kisses!

Carving pumpkins and roasting seeds. It was a great afternoon!

They wanted to race their bikes and asked me to say, "Ready, steady, go!" (Ready, steady go is their verson of ready, get set, go. It always makes me smile when they say it.)

Playing in the yard!

The four youngest kids set up lawn chairs for Dustin and me to watch them play football. Some were in coats, some in sweats and one with no shirt! Hilarious!

Corinne Meserat


P.J. day at school. The kids dressed up each day as part of Red Ribbon Week. The girls kept telling me they were stomping out the drums in their school. (Drums, drugs... you know it sounds almost the same!) They weren't too sure about wearing their pajamas to school. It took a little coaxing. I bet they think America is pretty weird sometimes.

Trick or Treat!

Madison and her good friend. I have to say, I didn't know who Thing 1 and Thing 2 were at first. You know, from Dr. Seuss! I thought they were way too cute and so creative!

A funny story... our neighbor and I trade off driving our kids to school each week. One morning one of her girls was saying, "Trick or treat! Smell my feet!" One of the twins gave her a strange look and asked in her cute Amharic/English accent, "You want ME to smell YOUR feet?!?"


Rebecca said...

Yay! A post! I would say you get a pass from posting regularly. You have FIVE KIDS now :)

I'm sorry things have been so difficult. I've been praying for you. I know you're glad the kiddos are home - and I'm hoping in another few months you'll look back and say 'wow, this is so easy!' :)

I love all the pictures. The monkey, first of all, is hilarious. Very pensive. :) The kids all look so cute in their costumes!

It's really funny to see how things translate. With the 'drums' and the 'smell your feet?'. A lot to laugh at :)

Will we be seeing you all soon? I hope so!!

Craig and Phyllis said...

Thanks for your honesty! This past year has been quite the ride for us, too! There is not much written out there for those of us that adoopt 3 older kids as compared to the one little baby.

Love all the pictures of your children! They are all beautiful! And the gorilla one was hilarious!

Robin said...

Oh Nikki...I could have written this post! It is such a relief when we've turned that corner and things seem to be settling into a "new normal."

I also struggle with what to share, what not to share on a public blog,,,.,but like you, would be more than happy to talk privately with people who want to know the hard stuff.

What I am tired of is others judging me for how I handle certain circumstances that are absolutely adoption related behavior and they have NO CLUE and think I'm being mean or harsh. I wish everyone who interacted with out children could take the training on attachment and bonding so they understang I'm not mean when I say to them: "No, you can't hold her."

Oh..another thought...we too struggled with argumentive behavior; for us, I really think they didn't know they were doing it. When I gently pointed it out, and started having consequences for arguing with me, the behavior changed almost immediately.

Much love! And so glad to hear from you!

Lindsey said...

I HAVE MISSED YOU!!!! I have wanted to email you a hundred times and just chat, but then Le would remind me that you have 5 kiddos at home and that you were busy! You guys are consistently in my prayers and I am so thankful for your honest and transparent love. Thank you. We cannot wait to see you again!

Hugs and Love,


Tanya said...

Thank you for the update! I love seeing all of the pics of the kids. I appreciate your candor and honesty in stating things haven't been easy all the time. As we pray about and consider adopting again (an older child ) in the future, I glean such insight and wisdom from those who have done it.

Dukes Pokes said...

You guys are doing great. You're raising 5 great kids. I couldn't be a prouder uncle. Pray for you guys every day.

(Proverbs 16:3,9) from the Message
Put God in charge of your work, then what you've planned will take place... We plan the way we want to live, but only God makes us able to live it.

J Studio said...

Thanks for the photos.... very encouraging to a waiting parent.

J Studio said...

I hope you don't mind that I posted the Kolfe video on my site.... If you mind, I'll take it off...

Kristy -Mom To 6 Blessings said...

Oh, soooo good to hear from you! You have been on my heart. Thanks for taking the time to post and for being real. The adjustment of our 19yo when we adopted her 10 years ago was TOUGH. It's not all lollipops and roses but oh, when it is lollipops and roses, it is THE BEST EVER! :-)

Lori S said...

Hi Nikki!!! I was so glad to see that you posted!!! Please, please email me anytime!!! I promise you that it does get better!! It's still hard for us, but it has been soooo much better!!! The entire family has come a long way!!

I enjoyed your pictures!!! Funny how we always capture the 'happy times'!